After reviewing the book. I remember a case-story. About a girl who realized that this guy in her life just not into her like she hopes. A best friend of mine has been in a-best-friend-kind relationship with a guy. My friend was considering an option and she discussed it with this guy. Then he asked my friend whether she still could be his ‘substitute’ or not if she took this option (I can’t tell u what the option is, it’s private). Heard the word ‘substitute’, my friend realized that there’s something wrong in her relationship. She listed down her thoughts. Here are some items on her list :

  • They kinda made a statement that they’re just good friends, but this guy flirted a lot.. At least, in my friend’s opinion. She didn’t sure whether the guy really tried to hit on her or it just her feeling and this guy always treats all her girl-friends like that. But both of the options are bad. If he’s really trying to hit on her then say it out loud, don’t always say the we’re-just-friend kind of statements. If he always treats all her girl-friend like that, then she just doesn’t agree with this style. It could reaaaaaally leads to misapprehension. Or is this what this guy wanting?
  • He made a promise, crossed it, came again another time, twisted the conversation so my friend won’t bother about the promise. He made a mistake. Didn’t apologize. Twisted conversation again.. And on.. And on.. But my friend just never forgets. And right then all the crossed promises, mistakes were flashing back in her mind.
  • He bullied this girl. He seems always found a way to make this girl fells not comfortable with herself. Especially when he had bad emotion that day. He made issues about my friend’s intelligence, skills, mental health. He made comments about my friend’s body. And he even doubted her understanding about religion. And these things are not healthy. It made her frustrated, angry. He doesn’t have any rights to humiliate her. To belittle her. Does he need to feel superior by mocking others? She just doesn’t need a friend like that.

 

After making this list, she tried to make a conclusion. Maybe, he’s just not into her. Not into as a boyfriend, of course. And also not into as a friend. Friendship is supposed to be about comfort. And sometimes she didn’t find it. Yeah, they also had really much fun together, but maybe it’s just worth to be remembered… And pride is worth more than that.

 

Then she made a harsh decision. Now, she’s starting to leave the relationship. For good.. She can’t be a substitute anymore. She needs the permanent-full-time-job. A full time girlfriend. A full time best friend. If she’s not getting this from this guy, there’re must be another person that she will find in another corner.. And she just can’t stand to be around this guy anymore. The more she involves with the guy, the more bad thoughts and feelings she has. She feels awful about her decisions. She feels so arrogant. Ruining up a good relationship because she couldn’t control her feeling. If she remembering the good times they had, she feels like a bad person. She knows that someday she will be regret her decision to throw away a good friend like him, but right now, it feels so DAMN right. So, dear my friend, good luck. May the force (always) be with you..

 

PS : Sorry again about the messy grammar, vocabulary, and others. I’m in a learning process to sharpen my writing skills J. Please do let me know if you found any mistakes. Thanks for stopping by..