This is my first post in English. Sorry about the messy grammar, vocabulary, and others. Please do let me know if you found any mistakes. Thx..

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This post is about a book that my friend and I found in PeriPlus Setiabudi. The book itself, ever appeared on The Oprah Show and wrote by 2 writers from the Sex n The City TV series. A great show that famous from its incisive observation about men and relationship. The whole book tries to tell us the symptoms about a man that you’ve been dating but he’s just not into you. Wrote from 2 perspectives, Liz’s perspective as a single New Yorker woman and Greg’s perspective as a normal man. This book has a special purpose, to make women around the globe realize when to stop waiting and hoping for a guy.

1st chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Asking You Out

There are so many excuses women make. Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship. The fact is, guys don’t mind messing up a friendship if it could lead sex or meaningful romance. If they want something, they can’t stop themselves, they want more. Maybe he just wants to take it slow. If they truly like you and wants to take it slow, he will let you know immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away. So who cares what his deal is. If he’s not asking you out, you shouldn’t start obsessing with him. Move on and meet someone else

2nd chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Calling You

If someone said he will call you, then forgot to call you, ask yourself a question : Don’t u want a guy who’ll forget about all other things first before he forgets about you? My suggestion is don’t be with a guy who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. No matter how busy he is, if he truly likes you, he would love to hear your sound even just for a minute a day. If he were into you, a phone-chat will become a bright intermezzo in his busy days. Unless he doesn’t know how to use the telephone machines.

NOTE : Maybe this could also apply for another medium of telecommunication. See, how cheap we are. We even tolerate SMS, YM messages.. So if a guy’s not giving you any news so he’s just not into you. Don’t into him too much..

3rd chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Dating You

Hanging out is not dating. There are no futures in friend-with-benefit kind of relationship. It just bullshit things created by them who just afraid to let go the fun if they’re committing in a serious relationship. Better than nothing is a thought that you should be shame about. The relationship supposed to be declared, claimed. There wont be gray areas, vagueness, and unidentified if he’s really into you. There’s a guy out there who will want to tell you he’s your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him.

4th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Having Sex With You

Haha.. skip this.. It’s not compatible with this country’s culture. In contrary, He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Having Sex With You.

5th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Having Sex With Someone Else

IT’S AS CLEAR AS IT IS.. DUMP HIM.. LEAVE HIM.. CURSED HIM WITH VOODOO DOLL.. I MEANT IT

6th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When He’s Drunk

An “I Love You” under an influence of alcohol won’t hold up in a court.. Or in life..

7th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He Doesn’t Want to Marry You

Marriage is a tradition that has been imposed on us. So, it’s not a wrong thing if you want it but your guy doesn’t. Love can cures commitment-phobia. So what other reasons stored? Financial problem? There’re people living under the bridge and still manage to get married. “Doesn’t want to get married” and “doesn’t want to get married to you’ is two different things. Be sure which category he falls under.

8th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Breaking Up With You

Someone broke up with you and now he calls you everyday. Leaving those “I miss you” messages.. Hmm, cut him off. Let him miss you. It’s his fault. Handle this breakup thing in classy way.. No crazy way.. Stop breaking into his friendster accounts and checking all messages that he has.. Stop using spy buddy to check if his messenger-status is invisible to you or not :P .. Stop spying on every girl that your friend saw walking with your ex. Don’t wasting your time trying to make him realizes that you’re great and he made big mistake. Because you are.. With or without him realizing it..

9th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Disappeared on You

He’s gone.. Poof. Vanished into thin air. No SMS, phone messages, email, or even Post It messages left. If he’s not going to Hogwarts School of Witchcraft & Wizardry and trying to get an Apparation license but somehow transported to Jupiter or If he hadn’t have a car accident and somehow get amnesia, then it clear that he’s so not into you. He has no interest in going out with you anymore and doesn’t have the guts to tell you that. Coward..

10th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Married (and Other Insane Variations of being Unavailable)

He just an insane-two-faces-asshole.. There’s a quote I love from this chapter.. No matter how real and powerful your feelings maybe for someone, if that person can’t fully and honestly return them and therefore actively return them, these feelings mean NOTHING. This quote strengthens my opinion that it’s not only tango that needs two.. love also takes two..

11th chapter. He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak

If you really love someone, you want to do things that make them happy right? A jerk that treat you awfully, a bully that’s going out his way to make you fell worthless (fat,unattractive,dumb,etc), and a porn-lover-freak are not options. Leave them. Yup, being lonely, being alone, for many people sucks. But being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are, is worse.

Yup, that’s the main chapters of this funny and hilarious book. I also added my opinions there. It suits you if you are a cynical feminist that always thought that all men are jerks. It will also suit you if you are dreamy girl that always thought that the man you’ve been dating is a perfect-prince-charming-that-God-especially-made-for-you but the real fact is he always makes excuses, finds a way to point out your flaws, or cheats on you (sorry,Rul :P ).

The conclusion I made is that we have to deal with men as they are, not how we’d like them to be. We don’t have to make excuses about their action. Men are not complicated although they would love you to think they are. And they don’t send mixed messages. It’s our mind that mixed things up. Think pessimistic, and also skeptic, are better way of thinking in this field, because it could prevent you from a hard-heart-break. Haha..